An Opportunity to Meet Me
It’s called the seduction community, not the social community.
The more social you are, the more opportunities you will have to spend your seductive skills. Your goal is to have social freedom. Unfortunately even having complete social freedom and the ability to deal with social pressure doesn’t mean you are good at seduction. Keep in mind being social does not get you laid, being seductive does.
Seductive & Serious Beats Social
With women you want the vibe between you to be more seductive and serious. However with other people (her friends, your friends) you want her to observe your social and fun personality. Obviously there will be many times when you inaugurate out being seductive with eye contact and skip the whole social phase. However you will calm need your social skills at some point. With that said, here are the 5 crucial mindsets for success when going out to meet women:
• Mindset #1
I’m only giving her an opportunity to meet me.
You are not opening. You are just giving her a chance to meet you. You are an interesting, attractive guy with a lot to offer. You know she would love to meet you but she is too scared to approach you. Let me say that again. She wants to meet you, she is objective too afraid to advance you. And you thought you were nervous. I don’t care how cool or good looking you THINK you are. Even if you were Brad Pitt the best you would ever get is women hovering around you. You still have to start the interaction. Give her the opportunity.
• Mindset #2
Being social is an adventure
If it’s so much work, some girls are frumpy and it makes you nervous, why bother being social in the first place? Because besides helping women out by giving them the opportunity to meet you, starting a conversation is a rush. It’s exciting! It makes the night out fun. You amuse yourself. You meet all different types of characters who can help you in other areas of your life. Every night out is an adventure and you never know what is going to happen. For me, being social is also part of my life mission which is to use my sense of humor and conversation skills to put a smile on someones face.
• Mindset #3
I’m not opening. I’m screening her.
You are being social but in reality you are going around screening for cold, attractive women that like to smile and are up for adventure. You opened her but you are really just screening her. I usually give women two chances to meet me. Meaning at first if she is rude or shy I will give her another chance to realize she is dealing with an attractive man who knows the deal. I don’t really plow or feel like I need to spend time convincing someone they should talk to me. I know I’m an attractive guy with a lot to offer. I have already been validated by enough women for a lifetime. Anything else is a bonus. A good quote from a buddy of mine goes:
“I am not interested in women who aren’t feeling me. There are 3 billion women on the planet and more of them want to get with me than I can possibly deal with in a normal lifetime.”
• Mindset #4
Social but on my own terms
You are social but you don’t have to put up with frumpy chicks or jerks. Don’t stay in sets where you aren’t wanted. It’s very rare but some people will be rude. Exquisite enough. Move on and never let it ruin your state. Pleasure meeting you. Let it go. Don’t analyze it. This is a small price to pay for being a social guy but you are more than willing to do this to achieve your social mission. If something truly bizarre happens, like a girl screaming at you, just use it as an opener.
• Mindset #5
The social phase is a free pass to have fun
You fetch a free pass in the social phase to do whatever you want. Have fun. Try recent things. Amuse yourself. Get blown out. The social phase has nothing to do with seduction or your seduction skills. This isn’t an excuse to act like a clown but don’t consume being social so seriously that you become paralyzed by fear. It will become pretty random what works and what doesn’t. For instance you may have met a really hot girl last night but today you open an unattractive woman and she laughs in your face like you’re a loser. It’s all a big joke.
So get out there, remember these 5 mindsets, and you will have astounding success. Click below to check out my world-renowned FREE brief presentation on How To Attract Girls
